Lioness at work sheep at home - how so?

My aunt is in a leading position in one of the offices of the trust, a very competent and strict boss, retired, but it does not let go for a vacation guide all the time increasing s / fee.But at home !She ordered about everything from her husband and ending with their grandchildren - all must do everything and for everyone to pay.Why is it I can not understand, maybe you know better ?

Maybe as a family every live my life and enjoy together?

Assume that the husband and wife live as each other and each has its own privacy, not reporting to her husband, but at some point they enjoy spending time together - in a nutshell the main living as good neighbors, but at some point as thelovers, and family papers !This may already have such a name, examples and definitions.